HE SAID READER:  I have been in recovery for alcoholism for 1 year.  My new boyfriend says he’s okay with that, but he wants us to go to clubs to dance and where he can drink.  He doesn’t drink excessively, but it is still hard for me to be around the scene of alcohol.  I want to continue to date this guy, but last time we went to a bar, I almost ordered a beer.  Would one beer be so bad?

BENDER:  Are you out of your mind?  You have one year of sobriety under your belt; congratulations!  Why in the world would you hang around with someone who suggests going to a club?  Why put yourself in “harm’s way”?  You’re only one year into recovery.  No relationship is worth jeopardizing your well-being.  Let your new friend know that there are plenty of other places to frequent, rather than where alcohol is served.  For the time being, you need to be around people who are not induldging as well as being in locations where you will not be tempted.  Good luck with your recovery!