HE SAID READER: I'm worried that my partner is going to get drunk and make a fool of himself in front of my friends at my office holiday party and every time I bring it up with him he just laughs and says it's no big deal. It's a big deal to me and I don't know how to get him to listen.

TB: Hmmm...let's see here...
1. Apparently, you already have seen your partner get drunk and make a fool of himself.
2. When you try to talk to your partner about his bad behavior, he laughs at you.
3. You know it's a big deal for you and you see it as your job to "make" your partner listen.

So, who do you think is in more trouble? You, choosing to be with a person who gets drunk at parties and embarrasses you; or your partner who appears to have a drinking/listening problem? Come on, get rid of the clown and find company with responsible, sensitive adults!

&nbs p;